Here’s everything you need to know about me: I love pudding, I’m a fan of extreme crosswords, I use the word “ubiquitous” a lot even though I don’t really know what it means, I’m half royalty, half ninja, half unicorn, I’m really bad at math, and I’m known in Mexico as “el whisperer de llama” which means “The Llama Whisperer”.

The Gentle, Sexy Bull

Imagine this scenario. The cuckold has for months been suspecting that his wife is getting some on the side. All the signs are there. She's not been very responsive in bed, seeming distracted, and looking for excuses to go out alone. He decides to follow her, and discovers her and her brutish lover in a dingy, low-rent motel room, where he is forcing savage, brutal sex on her.

Kinda formulaic, right? The cuckold, willingly or unwillingly, has his spouse 'stolen' from him by the Bull for sexual exploitation. Sometimes even against her will, ostensibly. This stereotype plays heavily on the Bull being all the things that bulls are -- strong, violent, selfish, intent on sex at any price, big-schlonged, and about as unsubtle and unromantic as you could imagine.

Now, this is probably a hot scenario for some of you kinksters out there. I don't deny the fascination that violent sex play has for a portion of our audience here.

However, I am making an argument for a different kind of Bull. This is a guy who comes into a relationship to play with the couple only with full consent from both sides. And even then, he makes sure that all boundaries are respected, and there is always safe play.

If she wants to be taken roughly and pounded by his cock until she's senseless with lust, it is his duty to fulfill her desire. If she wants to get him in her ass while her hubby is fucking her pussy, he should do exactly that. But if she didn't ask for that, it's a no-go zone.

The considerate Bull will first find out from both partners what it is they're looking for. Is this just a fantasy that's playing out in the mind of the wife, or the husband? If the other partner is not on the same page, you need to stop and at least talk about what the expectations are. Does the man's fantasy of seeing his girl get fucked by some big cock conflict with her desire to just have a hot threesome? Then those conflicting expectations need to be worked out.

There are a lot of nuances and variations to Bull / cuckold or just MMF play. Does everyone participate at once, or is it one guy at a time? Is there a bi aspect to it, or must all cocks stay at least 6 inches away from each other? Does someone get to record it all on their phone?

Since having joined XHamster only a few weeks ago, I've fielded dozens of questions about what a Bull / cuckold or MMF scenario might look like (and if I would be interested). The answer is almost always, it depends (and, it depends ;-) ). It mainly depends on what the couple wants. It almost never depends on what the Bull wants -- that's completely secondary.

Communication is key. The scenario you've constructed in your own fantasy is not automatically shared with your partner -- you need to talk about it with them, over a period of time. When you've played it out with your partner in conversation (preferably during or right after some awesome hot sex), then you know you can attempt to put it into action.

And when you do put it into action, please, pretty please, do not pick some random guy off a hookup site (or the bar) who looks like he might be a well endowed stud as your Bull. It is likely not going to go as planned.

Put up a profile (on XHamster, for example.) Talk to the interested guys and interview them. If the only response is, "Oh yeah, I wanna fuck your wife right now!" he may not be the best candidate.

Bull / cuckold and MMF play can be super hot. I absolutely love it because of the dynamics, pushing of boundaries and taboos, and the variations of play. But you shouldn't wing it and hope for the best. That may not work out so well. Some sexy stories you can find here: Christine's first gangnbang, Surprise Threesome, I watch a lot of porn, desperate women and safe sex, Das Abspritz-Training, Beautiful in Red Lingerie, Camping with Wife and Friend, Asshole